I'm a catholic convert - converted during college. Went through what passed for RCIA at my college - being stuck in with the confirmation students and nothing was really explained well.
I haven't been to Mass since before I got pg with DD - who will soon be 2 .
I want to get back into the church, but it's like I just can't. I can't explain why - but in some ways it terrifies me to think about going. DD hasn't been baptized or anything either , and I'm an unmarried single mom and I know thats a big part of it, as it the rather lengthy first confession I'd need to make. {Since that was another part they didn't cover when I converted}.
I kinda want to go through RCIA again, and maybe learn all the stuff I didn't learn the first time around.
If its something you really believe in, maybe you should go through RCIA again. I have a girlfriend who just recently converted and she really enjoyed the classes as well as the relationship she built with the priest (?) who taught the class. It was something she valued as confirmation that she was making the correct decision for her.
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It is terrifying to think that you could go to the church and be rejected or turned away! That is one of the things I really don't like about Catholicism or other org. religions who can let you in or let you out of the fold. You might want to consider going to a U.U. church. The are very open to all kinds of people. Or a Methodist church. The bishop is gay. They will let you take communion even if you are drunk/outcast. They don't encourage proselytizing. They believe the bible is allegory AND fact.
I think it is important for us to leave our church of origin and find our own path. If that leads us back to where we came, all the better, at least we are then there conscientiously, not just by default.
Being raised in the Catholic church makes you a good candidate for The Goddess Culture. Mother Mary is one of the last vestiges of any Goddesses that remains in male dominated religion.
I, personally, don't think religion is for children.
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It's not so much a thing of being rejected or turned away - it's just I can't seem to just get it over with and go.
It would be no problem if it were the priest we had at college - he was the best and very openly gay, but celibate and a great priest. But of course they transfered him to FL
I guess it's just my fear of the unknown & serious lack of people skills.
Do you have any friends at a church that you could kind of network with for encouragement? People who would help you out with some motivation? If it means a lot to you, then by all means you should do what it takes to get yourself there.
It is terrifying to think that you could go to the church and be rejected or turned away! That is one of the things I really don't like about Catholicism or other org. religions who can let you in or let you out of the fold. You might want to consider going to a U.U. church. The are very open to all kinds of people. Or a Methodist church. The bishop is gay. They will let you take communion even if you are drunk/outcast. They don't encourage proselytizing. They believe the bible is allegory AND fact.
I think it is important for us to leave our church of origin and find our own path. If that leads us back to where we came, all the better, at least we are then there conscientiously, not just by default.
Being raised in the Catholic church makes you a good candidate for The Goddess Culture. Mother Mary is one of the last vestiges of any Goddesses that remains in male dominated religion.
I, personally, don't think religion is for children.
I can't agree more. Truly.
I was catholic for years and although I learned a lot about Christianity, it wasn't a good fit - for me. I also went to an Episcopal church because of their stance on female leaders and homosexuality (albeit somewhat of a controversy, still)
What is it about being in a church that attracts you?
Kindness, joy, faith, hope, gratitude - these make me happy, and were the meaning behind the teachings of all the great masters - including Christ.
I was yearning for communion a couple of years ago and went to church with my granddaughter. It was impossible. I cried through the entire service. I don't know why, but tears were just streaming down my face. Samantha didn't know what to think, and I had no explanation. I wasn't unhappy, I wasn't necessarily joyful - just a water works.
Just the other night, my sister told me the exact same thing happened to her. We're still thinking about it. Was it just the mourning of family times? We always went to church when we were kids - good little protestants. I think it had to do with these memories.
I'll tell you this though - that's the end of that for me. Something about church is claustrophobic. Even Christ held his meetings in the open places.
If it's something you feel you would want to do, I'd ask around if any of your friends go and ask if you could meet them and sit with them etc. That was how my dh got back in the habit (no pun intended ) of going to church. Not only did he want to go, he feels good going, but it brought him closer to some friends that he was just casual aquaintences or so before to really being close friends now.
I'm Jewish, and I sort of did the same thing when i wanted to get back into being involved in a synagogue. Some people I know who have kids around the same age and I joined at the same time and we have similar lifestyles etc.
It's like exercising. It's hard to get motivated to start, but if you have a friend to do it with, it's easier and you both can support each other through the joys and hardships of the experience.
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I think it is important for us to leave our church of origin and find our own path. If that leads us back to where we came, all the better, at least we are then there conscientiously, not just by default.
Just wanted to say, I think this statement is absolutely brilliant
We're also Catholic, we got married in the Catholic church, as well. The kids' have done their baptism and 1st communion. I don't have it in my to go, either. I can't find a good fit. I never really went as a child. But I agree whole heartedly with the above quote.
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, and I'm an unmarried single mom and I know thats a big part of it, as it the rather lengthy first confession I'd need to make. {Since that was another part they didn't cover when I converted}. 
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) of going to church. Not only did he want to go, he feels good going, but it brought him closer to some friends that he was just casual aquaintences or so before to really being close friends now. 
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